On my journey I have come across a lot of people walking the path as spiritual healers but what I have noticed is that some of these people try so hard to be the healer that they lose touch with their families and friends and what being a spiritual healer means. I know the challenges are difficult at times, and know all too well we can't please everyone, but nevertheless the person that is walking this path still needs to realise that being a healer doesn't exclude them from the normal experience of life. Indeed, they may need to look at the effects they have on others which could cause negativity; if a person is going to call themselves spiritual then this needs to come from the heart and be evident in all areas of their lives if possible. People will often say to me "I know of a healer that is so rude and treats other with no respect yet they are amazing healers", but we need to remember that not all healers are spiritual. In fact many don't call themselves spiritual but in this life seem to have a natural facility to channel healing energies, but even so these types of healers should question their behaviour because when their journey ends they will be faced with themselves and will have huge regret that they didn't honour their gift.
- Healing starts with those closest to us
The healer needs to look at his own self with a clear view of who they are. First of all they will have families and friend that need them - these people need to be tended to because healing starts with the closest people, great wisdom comes from those around us. Too often I have seen others neglected because the 'healer' is too busy to listen or be available because of the healing; our spirit friends do not wish for others to suffer at the hands of healers.
- Desperate to heal
This isn't what the spiritual realms expect from healers. Proving a point to one's self or to others or even for monetary gain has no benefits to the healer or the person that wishes to receive healing as the agenda is not true spiritual intentions.
- Never present healer
Spiritual healing is an act of love but there have been times that I have seen healers turn down someone because of how they look, their behaviour or even because of body odours, or because they went to another healer before rather than them; also there are the ones that are not present while given healing and will be mentally elsewhere, I often say you may us well just peel spuds.
- On the healer's terms
Sometimes healers forget whom they serve. Listening and watching in environments where there are several healers working I am sad to see how some of them conduct themselves - some chat to others in the room and not even to the people that are receiving healing, or other healers that don't even talk or smile to those people that have come for healing - what must that feel like to someone in need, and last but not least the ones that are having a good old gossip or moaning about trivial things - what a great environment for healing; I equally feel sorry for the dedicated healers among these that are trying to work. Healers need to remember healing isn't just on their terms and if not done spiritually then little healing is being done.